Well hey there! I know
it’s been a while. I know practically nobody will have noticed my absence from
the blog as I only had around 10 Bloglovin’ followers when I published my last
post but I still somehow feel compelled to write an explanation...
Firstly, I realised
that starting a blog at the same time as basically beginning a full time job (I
was working Mon-Fri 9-5 on placement) was possibly one of the worst things I
could have done as I was so freaking exhausted from placement that I couldn’t contemplate
anything other than sleep and/or studying.
Secondly, I have just
came to the end of undoubtedly the worst summer of my life. It’s been a pretty
crappy year to be honest. Last year my Gran was diagnosed with Alzheimers
disease (a type of dementia) which took a real toll out of my entire family.
She lived alone as we lost my Papa when I was 13 and although she was still
coping, this year she really started to go downhill to the point that I was
scared for her safety. There was a horrible atmosphere in my home as my dad
really was her sole carer (his sister lives abroad) and had a lot of worries
and responsibility on his shoulders so was understandably stressed and
sometimes took his stress out on us when we tried to help. She became more and more confused, forgot how to cook meals for herself and began wandering
out of her own house and getting lost. The one aspect of her character that
remained through her illness was that she remained a very stubborn lady and wouldn’t accept any sort of help like meals on wheels and of course we couldn’t
force her to do anything she didn’t want to so we were really stuck in a tough
place. We were considering plans for the future when things took an unexpected
turn. Her friend was helping her to get ready for a routine doctor’s
appointment when she noticed a lump on my gran’s back. She pointed this out to
the doctor who immediately sent her to A&E at our nearest hospital. She was
in the same hospital as I was working in for placement so I would visit her
after every shift to see how she was doing. Over the next couple of weeks, her
decline was unbelievable. To cut a long story short, she was diagnosed with a
rare form of muscle cancer. The doctors decided that treatment would not be
beneficial and so a palliative care plan was put in place. Visiting her every
week and seeing the gradual decline in her health is the hardest thing I’ve
ever gone through. She spent just over 5 weeks in hospital before being moved
to a care home where she could be looked after in a nicer and more homely
setting where the nurses had more time more one-on-one care. She passed away
just over 2 weeks later on the 5th of September. My entire family
were (and still are) absolutely heartbroken. How somebody can go from attending
a routine doctor’s appointment to no longer being with us in the space of exactly
8 weeks is just unbelievable and something I still cannot wrap my head around.
My only comfort is the fact that she is no longer in pain and that the last
time I saw her I hugged and kissed her and told her how much I loved her – and
she was able to say it back. I still miss seeing her face light up every time we visited, she really was a true reflection of how the simple things in life can make you so happy.
I’m not trying to upset
anybody with this post and I’m very sorry if I have. I just felt like I had to
write these feelings down somewhere. The one thing I want anybody reading to
take away from this is how important your family is. We take them for granted
far too much but there is nothing more important than family. Please make sure your family know how much you care about them and take the time to visit them when you can. An unexpected visit can really make a grandparent's day.
Anyways, after a tough year and a half, and a truly
horrible couple of months I’m hoping that things can only improve. I’m going to
London for the September weekend with my family since we never got away for a
holiday during the summer and I’m really looking forward to it. I plan to pick
up a few beauty bits and they will undoubtedly feature in my next few posts. I’ll
plan to have then done in the next couple of weeks. I’m really looking forward
to getting back to blogging as I really enjoyed it before life decided to turn
crappy and I’m really going to try super hard to work on my blogging skills and
content!
Until next time
lovelies!
Jen
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